the Worst First Date Mistakes

When two people love each other, it is easy to understand the dynamics of a long distance relationship. However, when these two people are dating online, the dynamics can be very different, especially if they want to meet face-to-face one day. Many things will need to change for both parties involved and concessions must be made on both ends. This brings up the question, is it all worth it? Will the trouble of establishing a long distance relationship after an online relationship be worth it? There are some simple rules to help you through some of the toughest times that may be lying ahead of you and you must keep them in mind if you intend to make this person your soul mate.

Quality Over Quantity

This might seem like a strange thing to say concerning a relationship; however it is quite real in this situation. What is the quality of the time the two of you "spend together?" Do you talk on the phone a lot? Do your chats and emails say enough? Is what you say substantial or is it just a quick “Hi” or “How are you?” If you find that what you are saying to each other is not much more than what a second grader would say to their first date or their puppy love interest, it might not be a good idea to take the time to meet. However, on the other end of the spectrum, if the words are real and the meaning sincere, take the time and make it work.

The Right Timing

This is essential to a long distance relationship and an online relationship as well. Because the two of you may live in a different time zone, it is easy to forget and miss calls or "dates" as well. If you find you are canceling more than scheduling when it comes to your phone or online dates, then it may be time to reconsider the position and importance of the relationship. If you feel, however, that it can work, you simply must make more time for each other, otherwise just as two friends slowly lose touch, the relationship may do the same.

Compromise is the Rule

This is the only way anything will ever work. The both of you must be flexible enough to have the ability to compromise with everything. This includes phone calls, letters, and times and places to meet-everything. If you are finding it is too difficult to make the time to reschedule so you can have quality time together, or you wind up making excuses.

as to why you cannot, it might mean that you need to reconsider where you stand in the relationship. On the other hand, if you are hearing these same excuses from your online or long distance partner, it might be a sign that the time for your relationship to succeed has come and gone and not worth the trouble

The key to any relationship includes variations of each of these three key points. With out compromise and flexibility, the perfect timing and quality communications, relationships just do not have enough to go on. These are the relationships that fizzle out over time. If you want to keep your long distance relationship going, or want to meet face to face after an online relationship, you simply must adhere to these rules or you may be better off single.

First Dates… When its all on the line and you really want him or her to love you. Assuming you’re not a stalker or psychotic, you’re looking to make the best first impression you can. A better one than any you have ever made before. There are some things to keep in mind so you do not blow the Golden Moment. When you are finally in the spotlight, keep remember these things and you are sure to make the best impression you can.

Neutral Territory

Never agree to meet at a specific house. The date should start at a traditional, safe location. This means that you both will have your own transportation and that gives both of you a sense of security, meaning you will be relaxed. If you’re going to be your winning self you had better be relaxed, right? This also means that if he or she does not turn out to be what you thought, you have an “out” door, which also enhances your sense of security as well.

K.I.S.S.

No, this is not about the first kiss. It is about Keeping It Simple Stupid. Do not make complicated or elaborate plans. The more nervous you are the less likely you are to shine and instead, easy and enjoyable is the key. Try to avoid mid-date travel as well. Even if the second location is a real winner, the trip overall rarely is. Just pick one spot and stay there.

Be the First

The guy should always try to be the one to end the date first. This should be done as smoothly and politely as possible. There is a natural ending point and if you are sharp.

and catch it, you will come off in a very positive light. The woman should only be the first to end the date if she in uncomfortable for any reason.

Too Hot

Girls, keep the volume down ok? Nobody is saying you should wear a burlap sack, but if the heat is too high the guy might fry. What’s worse, if that’s not the case they you might end up in a situation you'd rather avoid? The best case is that all that will be remembered is your looks, and most likely from the neck down. That’s not a good thing, so do not overdo it.

Trying to Hard

Do not try too hard. If your going out for the first time the other person will only know what your wearing now, not what you didn't wear. Focus on the date and not your appearance dress comfortable but attractive. Anything excessive or too intentional will just throw things off or make the both of you nervous.

In the Loop

Make sure that the other person knows as much as you do about where you are going and what you’re doing on your first date. Keep it clear. The last thing you want is your date showing up in a cocktail dress and then finding out that Goofy Golf was first.  

Bad impression central.

Communication

If you think about it, you are there to learn so to speak, you are trying to see if this is the love of your life. So learn, and ask questions. However, do not ask too many questions or make them too probing but do show a healthy interest in your date. The best thing that can happen is the "we talked all night, it was so romantic" type of date. It will show you in the best light and you will really get the chance to get to know them. People like that.

Smell

The worst thing is overdoing any scent. Perfume or cologne, if it is too much or over the top, you two are going to be over soon too. This is very distracting first off and it creates the impression that you have "something to hide”. You are not the only one who knows what a perfume bath is. 

Breath of Death

You know, you might just get that first kiss. Nevertheless, if you do, may God help you if you just ate garlic chicken for dinner? Remember to make sure that your breath is taken care of. If you have dental issues, take extra care to insure that there is no odor. Keep mints with you at all times, but don't bring a toothbrush, that’s not good impression material, not at all.

Fun

It is all about fun so… Remember to have fun, OK? The best first impression is the most natural one and when you smile for real, you really do shine!

When you take the time to try and make a good impression, it really shows. However, if you try too hard-that will show too. Probably the most important thing you can do when trying to make a god impression is natural. If you do and say things naturally, and not forced, it is one of the best impressions that always get remembered and you are sure to get to the second date.

Have you ever put your foot in your mouth? Here are a few tips that might come in ha bad dates sometimes can be unavoidable. No matter what you do, at least once in your life, you are bound to have a bad time on a date for one reason or another. You may run across people who say they have never had a bad one, but rest assured they are not exactly telling you the truth. It is not possible to have a perfect, 100% “good date” dating score. The most common way a date can go wrong is if one of you say the wrong thing to the other. This can ruin the perfect date even for Oprah. But there are ways to get around it. There are also things you can do to try to counteract the damage of what was said, or even get out of the bad date altogether if you need to.

Awkward Silences-The Date Killer

Imagine this for a minute. You are on a date and in a restaurant. It’s a nice restaurant, not too expensive, not overly gaudy, but nice. The two of you have ordered dinner and are patiently waiting for your drinks to arrive. And then it happens, the first awkward silence of the evening. So you start to say something to your date to try to combat the silence. The problem is, though, that in your haste to find words, you stumbled upon the wrong words. Instead if asking a normal question like “So, what is your job like?” it came out as “So, how much money do you make?” or maybe you commented on the way your date was dresses but it came out wrong. 

Saying the wrong thing to your date doesn’t have to be a date killer, but it certainly qualifies. So how do you combat this? If it was you who made the faux pas, politely and calmly explain to your date that you really didn’t mean to say what you did. Tell them, the truth and let them know that you were so excited about being on a date with them that you couldn’t find the right words to say and you thought that something was better than nothing. Then hope that they will understand and let it go. Or you could just let it slide and hope wither they won’t notice you said something you shouldn’t have, or they won’t care.

If you are the recipient of the wrong words said to you, there are a couple things you can do. First, you could ignore what they said. It is entirely possible that you already know they are nervous and know it is possible for something like that to happen accidentally. In that case, you could just ignore what they said and start a new conversation as if you had never heard the offending words in the first place. The other thing you can do, especially if the words were actually hurtful or offensive in some way is ask for an explanation and/or an apology. Of course you want to know why the offending phrase was spoken, but if it was offensive, it may have hurt your feelings and requires something be done about it.

Two Possible Outcomes

This situation could actually have two outcomes for the person who spoke out of turn. If you are the person who ad lobbed at the wrong time and have tried to explain or apologize hoping for forgiveness or understanding, and you get it, then there is hope for the relationship yet. This means the other person is open to understanding dicey situations and can handle out of the ordinary things happening occasionally. Just try not to make a habit out of it.

The second possibility is the words were too offensive, or there was no apology or forgiveness. In this case, it might be a good time to bow out of the relationship already. If a person can’t understand something as silly as a phrase faux pas, then it is likely they will be rigid and restrictive, possibly controlling or abusive, further along into the relationship.

Life and Dating Goes On

In the end, whether the relationship survives a forgivable faux pas or if it is left in the dust, the fact remains that it was a bad date. It will either survive or not. If it does, you have a second chance with it, so you might want to be a bit more careful in the future. At least until the two of you are comfortable enough to be able to talk about those things that are considered taboo to talk about until the 10th date. .Otherwise, if you broke up, you have still gained something from the situation. So either way, you win. Just be a bit more careful next time and know that life-and dating-goes on.

5 Common Sense Dating Tips for Single Men

There are hundreds, if not thousands, of tips that have been proposed to the singles community over the last few hundred years or so. The problem with these tips is they are just the same things dressed up as something new. However, the following tips, give you a bit of common sense. This is handy because common sense is one of the first things that fly out the window when a man starts dating, especially if he is pursuing someone he genuinely likes.

Beer Goggles Do Not Work!

They do not in any way make women prettier or smarter. You also cannot rely on beer goggles to show you the truth in any way, shape or form. What a woman says when she is drunk-or heavily buzzed-is not true in any way, no matter what your buddies tell you about alcohol being a truth serum, it is not, period. What alcohol is, in fact, is a good way to humiliate yourself, or her. When two people go out on a first or second date, or if they are still "getting used to each other" then drinking a lot is not the way to do it.

Marriage is Not What every Woman Wants

No matter how much she might say she loves you within the first few dates, marriage should not be an option. Any woman looking for marriage this quickly is probably in a rebound and trying to get away from another man as quick as possible. On the other hand, you, as a single man, should never-ever-propose within the first few dates, either. Whether you think she give up what you want easier, or if you are really doing it because you are so totally in love, it may not be the right thing to do for numerous reasons. Your best bet would be to wait until at least the six month mark.

Planning is Everything

When you go on a date, women are looking for you to make the plans, especially if you are the one who asked her out. Make sure you have a plan before you go on your date, or you could end up with the dreaded awkward silences men hate so much.

Breaking Up is Not Hard to Do

Just don’t do it to date someone else in her family. That is a major no-no! Any man who breaks up with a woman to date that woman's sister-or mother even-is not a man worth

dating. He is most likely just trying to get one thing from them and everyone gets hurt in the end and it is just utterly disrespectful to women as a whole.

Cancel Out the Ex-factor

Never talk about an ex when you are dating a new woman, especially if you broke up with that ex to be with her. This is something many men do not even realize they do. Not only does it look bad on the man, but it also makes women extremely jealous. Because she will already constantly think he will break up with her to be with someone else, as he already has a track record as a "cheater," you do not want to make it worse by talking about the ex. This might not only put you on a short leash with her, but prove to be very embarrassing when she starts accusing you of something you might not be doing.

When you go on a date with a new woman, keeping these common sense tips in your head at all times is probably the safest thing you can do. If you want to hang onto the woman you are with, keeping an eye on your words and your actions will guarantee you safe passage into her heart much quicker and can save yourself from another nasty breakup.